Can A Kiss Really Be Just A Kiss?

French Kiss (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Watching television, there’s always the love scene where a couple whether married or unmarried would share a tender moment.  Depending on the rating, it could be a steamy tender moment that makes you feel uncomfortable if your mom happens to be watching it with you.  Sometime ago, I was watching a family movie where the couple was lying in bed talking.  As they talked, the wife lightly and lovingly touched her husband’s arms, back and face.  For a moment I thought I saw genuine care in her face.  As they enjoyed a deep and exploratory kiss, I couldn’t help wondering if either of them had any feelings at all for the other.  Just a tiny attraction?

I know it’s all movies and acting but can someone be so professional that they could resist the body’s natural instincts and urges in the name of acting?  I know some people would say  “Oh it’s different when you don’t love the person you are making out with.  There’s nothing to it.” but I really don’t buy it.  I know for one thing that if I was doing a movie with say Jennifer Aniston and we had to do a make-out scene, of course I will feel something.  I am human.  (I know you are saying, ‘Yeah right’).

Couples who never saw each other before are lying in bed together nude or almost nude and mimicking what they do in their own bedrooms.   And that’s normal? Nothing’s wrong with that? Just a job? It’s only movies?  Well let me give you my take whether you want it or not.  I seriously think it trivializes real life relationships.  I also think it could be linked to the failed relationships and marriages that plague celebrities.  Why have a partner when you could fool around with all the hot women in Hollywood with no strings attached?  Ala The Bachelor.

Coincidentally, while I was drafting up this blog, I took a break to surf the internet and found an item where the star of the television show Scandal admits that his wife is uncomfortable watching his make-out scenes with his female love interest.  She apparently refuses to watch the show.  Here.  Now that’s what I’m talking about.  Would I enjoy watching a movie where my wife is half naked and kissing some guy the way she kisses me?  Especially if he’s more ‘man’ than I am?  But it’s only the movie honey.  I love you.  Oh really?  You kiss him exactly the same way you kiss me AND you even close your eyes…

Saying this, I do realize that for a movie to be successful, it has to be as close to reality as possible.  Unfortunately, there’s a very thin line that separates that reality from the movies.

To me, a kiss is more personal than even sexual intercourse but that’s…

Just my take.  Go ahead and kiss the girl.

 

 

 

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Quick Fix Saviour

A Brazilian commercial has caused the birth of a superstar in that country and around the globe.  The ad is shows a guy trying to sell a condominium. He says, “It would fit my family nicely except for my daughter Luiza, who is in Canada.” (Luiza was studying as an International Student in Vancouver).  Luiza unknowingly became an overnight sensation from that random line, for doing nothing.  She went back home last week to a media frenzy.  It has also started a trend of people composing songs with lyrics parodying the now famous statement. Needless to say, Luiza is now giving interviews and showing up everywhere in Brazil as a celebrity.

It’s interesting the way we as a society are quick to bestow importance on those undeserving of it.  We are always on the lookout for the next big thing, the next idol, someone we can follow and emulate.  Sometimes, emulating these idols means giving up our morals and sacrificing our very souls but we do it anyway.  We dress like they do, we consume what they consume and do so until the next big thing comes along.  It is a strange phenomenon.

We might not readily admit it but we are truly starving for something big in our lives.  We realize that there has to be more to it than waking up, going to work day after day after day.  That is why we are so quick to embrace our Quick Fix Saviours.  (A term I invented).  They are our attempt to fill in the blanks in our lives.

What do I mean by Quick Fix Saviours?  Like I said, we, generally speaking, are starving for something, something to fill the void and the emptiness,  so we embrace our own forms of Saviours, Rock Stars, Movie Stars, Pets or material possessions.  These have one main thing in common, they are all just quick fixes.  They do not fill our emptiness  permanently. They cannot guarantee us anything. Unfortunately, the one who promised that he could give us eternal life and happiness, is ignored.  The only Permanent Saviour.

As humans, we suffer from nearsightedness. We tend to miss to big picture because we seek instant and fleeting gratification. We want it now.  Instead of going into a restaurant to sit down and enjoy our meals, we prefer the quick drive through service, even if it means eating while driving. Drive through ATMs and even drive through weddings are signs of our need for quick fixes.

Instead of seeking out the next American Idol, the next Justin Bieber or even that Mega Church Pastor with the Golden Voice, why can’t we eliminate the middle man and go straight to HIM? From what I read in the Bible, the man is the real deal. What do we have to lose?

Related:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/world/story/2012/01/21/luiza-brazil-canada.html