Happiness is perhaps one of the most debated topics. A quick visit on the web and you will be bombarded with ads that offer inspirations or blogs on how to find the elusive happiness. How To Be Happy, What Is Happiness? The Happiest City to live. Many hit songs and movies are centered around the subject. Happiness.
In this soup mix of life, happiness seems to be the base. It is our raison d’etre or the bane of our existence. No matter who you are and what you do, your main quest is happiness. Even the cold-blooded murderer seeks happiness. Unfortunately, bringing harm to others would not bring you real happiness. Happiness is also subjective, meaning it is relative to the individual. What makes me happy does not necessarily make you feel the same. On the flipside though, making someone happy could also make you happy. How easy is that? That’s what I would call true happiness.
Even though it is unanimous that we are all in the same hunt for happiness, many of us are so caught up just fighting to merely exist that happiness becomes an afterthought. A luxury only the lucky few could afford. We seek things that either give us a false sense of happiness or a temporary happiness-fix. I am going to make lots and lots of money, I might not be happy but I will be rich. If I do find happiness, then bonus! The majority of us are in jobs that give us no sense of happiness but they pay the bills. We spend our entire lives in this situation. Money does not equate to happiness, just ask anyone who has won the lottery. Some even wished they had never won.
We sometimes envy celebrities and the lives they live. They seem so happy and why shouldn’t they? They have everything. Well, except true happiness. The happiness of going for a walk without having cameramen jumping out of bushes. Walking into a local grocery store or shopping at the mall without wearing a mask…who should envy who?
Happiness is elusive but only because we make it so. It’s actually simpler than we think. It’s a smile, a song, a hug or making someone’s day. Things that money can’t buy. Then why can’t we find it? One reason is that we really do not know what happiness is. We seek to have the happiness of others. We want what we think makes those people happy. Sometimes when we stumble upon happiness, we dismiss it. It’s too easy. I don’t deserve this. Why am I happy? Another reason is that we seek to be selfishly happy. It’s been proven that making others happy brings us happiness but who really wants to make others happy? What if we make them happy but do not get any happiness out of it?
Happiness is there for the taking, barely elusive. So how do we find it? By realizing it is not lost in the first place. Don’t over-think it, just be happy.