Cutting Off The Nose To Spite The Face?
Yesterday I watched the news about a city man who had his personalized Star Trek-themed licence plate recalled because ‘Manitoba Public Insurance received a complaint.’ Yes, all it takes is one solitary complaint. Even over a 2-year old licence plate that is obviously, in a blatant way, not intended to be offensive in the least.
Now as a black man, I do understand and know offensive, (Trust me, I have seen and heard my share of thinly-veiled offense). and I’m happy to know that you Caucasians are looking out for us minorities, but sometimes you over-do it and I’m left embarrassed. I feel as though you are helicopter parenting me. My co-workers sometimes say they are ‘working like a slave’. Should I file a complaint? What if another caucasian hears it and feel offended? Well that’s just wrong. Why should YOU feel offended if I am not offended? I do understand the plight of the Aboriginals who were forced to assimilate and give up their culture but do you think they cringe every time they come across the word while reading a book? Should it be banned then? Should Star Trek also be banned? See? There’s no end to it if we go down this road. We are cutting off the nose to spite the face.
In this situation, I would recommend a meeting with an aboriginal group and the licence plate owner. Hear how each party feels about the situation and take it from there.
My two older boys claim the don’t love each other. In fact, the word hate is used. Whenever I catch them hugging or playing together I would say ‘Look at you! You do love each other! They would promptly back away and give each other space. So what I learn here is, if you leave some things alone, they would be forgotten but if you keep digging things up and looking under rocks for allusions, you re-open wounds. Words have multiple meanings and memories for many of us. Some good and some bad. Don’t cut the nose to spite the face.
Just My Take