As I sat in the pew last Friday, attending my second funeral in as many months, I reflected on how final death was. It was the funeral of a close family friend, she was only 46. The celebration ran long as there were a total of 10 speakers, each sharing stories of the awesome person whose ashes lay before me. Gone too soon.
I thought of how we sometimes live our lives as though we have a lot of years ahead of us. Even though we greet each other at funerals with the same, “Oh life is so short, let’s not meet like this anymore.” that sentiment is usually forgotten before we are even done gorging on the funeral food.
Life is indeed too short and even though we have all these memes and sayings that remind us not to worry or sweat the small stuff, it’s all just hogwash. We worry about past mistakes and screw-ups wasting valuable time regretting what we did to our best friends, our families and ourselves. What we did in Vegas that stayed in Vegas… The time we got drunk and experimented with drugs… Sometimes we even worry about the good things we did! We spoke the truth and it resulted in us being alienated by family and friends, so we worry and stress about that too!
Last time I checked, worrying never fixed or changed anything. Wishing you could turn back time is not going to change what happened. So you did something bad stuff, who hasn’t? Life is an ongoing lesson. We never stop learning until we die, so learn from what you did.
Maybe you never intended to egg your neighbor’s house as you are a nice person. You are anti-drugs but you did it anyways the night you got wasted. What would your friends and family think if they only knew? Maybe the same thing you would think if you only knew what they did. What you did is done so you might as well add it to your unplanned/accidental bucket list and scratch it off. The thing is, a person’s worth is not judged by what they did but who they are. I have seen pastors who were once incarcerated. Lives turned around for the better. Don’t worry about your past, worry about your present. Did you learn from it? Are you a better person because of it? Then you are a success, not a failure.
As you lay dying, the only worry you should have is if your family would be ok. Anything else is a waste of RAM.