Do I know you? Do you know you? That may be the better question. Everyone wants everyone to be like…yes, everyone but themselves. Why can’t you be like so-and-so? As a young kid, my aunt wanted me to be like The Baileys. The Baileys were our upper-class family friends, quite naturally, their kids were classy and well-mannered. At least in the public eye. My aunt didn’t know they farted without saying excuse me.
There is so much conversation on young people being forced or pressured to look and act a certain way. As parents we resent and discuss this with disgust but in many ways we are guilty of setting the trend. How many of us ask our halves to be different? “Honey, why can’t you be like this? Do it for me. Wear this…” I have seen it in friends who were once wild and free with independent minds, becoming zombie-like as they lose their own identity and take on that of their other halves. They just melded.
Sometimes a change is good. Your wife finally gets you to loosen up and try something you have never tried before, you did and found out you loved it! In fact, you are a natural at it! This does not change who you are. It just means you have added something new to what makes you. Kudos to the wifey! Life is a life-long learning experience. You sometimes learn that you are not one-dimensional after all! I for one have found out I like chips after all! Thanks honey!
On the flipside, I have seen my once-funny friends get involved with Debbie Downers and turned into Boring Bobs. (Isn’t it funny that it rarely works the other way?). A happy you is the real you are and being anything other than that is compromising or rejecting the very things that characterize who are you.
Don’t be like the Baileys or anyone else for that matter. Be YOU, but first, find out who you really are.